You've broken the ice to your parents about your interracial love, and now it's time to introduce your bae-bae to your parents. Simple right? Well, yes, it can be, minus your complex nerves. Let me help you simplify this meeting.
First things first, choose the date to meet wisely. Is it a busy time of the year? Often times the holidays or long weekends are dedicated to family events, so you'd best avoid those. Not only because those times can be awfully hectic but also, being surrounded by family can create unrealistic expectations for bae by your parents. Remember, you want your introduction to be casual, not "Hey, mom and dad, so and so is joining the family now!" Uh no.
Secondly, but very important, you want to keep the meeting brief. Have a start and end time to your meeting, this way both parties know what to expect, and don't feel uncomfortable cutting the introduction short. Keeping the first introduction short is also a good way to prevent your parents from prodding to deeply, that can come later, once your parents have gotten over the whole interracial dating bit.
Choose a non-threatening environment to meet that ensures the meeting doesn't become a big, fat, yellow spotlight on the two of you and your relationship. You also don't want it to be interview-like. This will require some thoughtful planning. A baseball game, a live theatre show or even going out for dessert are all good ways to allow your parents to connect with bae while partaking in another activity.
Following these three tips will help alleviate your nerves and make introducing your partner easy-peasy. Have any other tips for introducing bae? Please post below!
First things first, choose the date to meet wisely. Is it a busy time of the year? Often times the holidays or long weekends are dedicated to family events, so you'd best avoid those. Not only because those times can be awfully hectic but also, being surrounded by family can create unrealistic expectations for bae by your parents. Remember, you want your introduction to be casual, not "Hey, mom and dad, so and so is joining the family now!" Uh no.
Secondly, but very important, you want to keep the meeting brief. Have a start and end time to your meeting, this way both parties know what to expect, and don't feel uncomfortable cutting the introduction short. Keeping the first introduction short is also a good way to prevent your parents from prodding to deeply, that can come later, once your parents have gotten over the whole interracial dating bit.
Choose a non-threatening environment to meet that ensures the meeting doesn't become a big, fat, yellow spotlight on the two of you and your relationship. You also don't want it to be interview-like. This will require some thoughtful planning. A baseball game, a live theatre show or even going out for dessert are all good ways to allow your parents to connect with bae while partaking in another activity.
Following these three tips will help alleviate your nerves and make introducing your partner easy-peasy. Have any other tips for introducing bae? Please post below!
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